Stop _________ Yourself in the Foot.
Do you know you’re _______ yourself in the foot when you complain, criticize, and condemn?
In fact, complaining, criticizing, and condemning is tantamount to ingesting poison—a poison that will stifle your growth and development.
No, I’m not asking you to pretend that life is peaches and cream. But I’m encouraging you to monitor the energy you send out. After all, one of the most self-destructive things you can do is to complain about, criticize, and condemn others, especially those you call on from time-to-time for help.
Remember, no one, not even your children owe you anything. And that what they do for you they do out of the goodness of their hearts. Therefore, you should do all you can to nourish, not kill the goose that lays the golden egg.
That said, if you see the need to complain, criticize, and condemn others, you must find a way to separate the action from the actor, the performance from the performer. In other words, direct what you say to what was said or on what was done.
After all, “People will forget what you say. They will forget what you do. But they will never forget how you made them feel,” Maya Angelou.
If you remember those words, you’ll have found a way to stop _________ yourself in the foot.